Every single person on this planet has fear...
Yet no one wants to talk about it much because...it's scary! Kind of ironic actually... People don't like this to be a regular subject in conversation so we don't learn much about the mechanics of fear through a purely scientific and physiological lens.
There are actually 2 types of fear in this world.
1.) Type 1 - True fear
True fear means you truly are about to be in harms way, or something bad is going to happen, or pay attention because you really really should be afraid right now.
2.) Type 2 - F.E.A.R - False Evidence Appearing Real
This is when that little voice in your head panic, freaks out, and gets mean about something that actually isn't going to be scary or harm you, but it just thinks it might.
We all have this inner voice of fear, doubt, and judgement. In the Coaching world, this voice has a name, we call it the Inner Critic. Your Inner Critic isn't usually a very nice voice, in fact, some of the meanest things that I've ever heard in my entire life is from my inner critic, not someone else.
We ALL have an Inner Critic by the way, but no one wants to talk about this or admit it. I've worked with hundreds of clients on the Inner Critic over the years and I've never met a single human being who doesn't have one. Everyone's Inner Critic may look a bit different or have different fears or mean things to say, however, I've never met someone who simply doesn't have one.
Want to hear something pretty funny? For over a decade I've been doing Inner Critic work and have always wanted to publicly talk about this and address it as it is a HUGE passion of mine. One-on-one I talk about it all the time and yet, only now am I finally publicly talking about it. Any guess as to why??? My gosh darn Inner Critic! I was afraid that people would think I was crazy and weird and that they couldn't really hear me. But recently, my passion for wanting the beautiful people of this world to be freed from the chains of the Inner Critic has gotten so big, I was willing to be courageous in my authenticity and to take a stand with it.
We often are so used to our Inner Critic though, it's become so much a part of normal life, that we forget how often it's in the background running commentary through everything we do as well as sometimes even running movie pictures in the back of our minds too.
Let me give you an example:
A few weeks ago I gave my first ever Keynote address and while I was really excited I also very naturally had some fear too. A few days before the keynote, I was practicing in my office and I heard my Inner Critic suddenly interrupt and say, "What if you trip and fall as you're walking on stage?" As my Inner Critic said this, I had a quick metal picture play a movie of me smiling and waving so gracefully, then tripping over my heels and face planting on the stage while hundreds laughed directly at me...Sound familiar...
Our Inner Critics are doing this dozens if not hundreds of times a day. They are stealing our happiness, our health, our wealth, and worst of all, our ability to connect with our most authentic selves. We've gotten so used to having one, that we didn't think we really had a choice in the matter, most of us didn't think there could be another way...
There is another way!!!
Through self awareness, Coaching, and many other tools, you can begin to silence the Inner Critic and all the False Evidence Appearing Real nonsense that it wants to distract you with day after day.
Life can be filled with peace and possibility when we learn to silence the Inner Critic. When we can silence the Inner Critic, something else quite extraordinary happens. We have a chance to hear what our heart truly wants, who our most courageous authentic self really is, and we can embrace living a life that is truly abundant.
Which life would you rather be living?
-Tabitha :) xoxo
Warrior Women Masterclass
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Tabitha enjoys living in Tucson, Arizona with her husband Jared, and her adorable doggies Shadow & Scooby. Stay tuned for Tabitha's upcoming book Serendipity in which she takes us through her time in Africa.